The power of mentoring was the difference in changing the direction of a young person's life.
The picture Dalila Robles sent to me in a text message on Friday confirms that she did the right thing five years ago.
That's when Robles was at home in Elizabeth trying to figure out what to do about her son. Carlos Padilla, then 13, wasn't a bad kid, but he needed some guidance after living with his father in Connecticut didn't work out.
The middle school boy was pretty much on his own while his dad struggled with alcohol and drug addiction. With no supervision, Carlos said, he followed the wrong crowd, got into fights and was nearly expelled from school.
Moving in with mom to attend Elizabeth High School was an adjustment. She had rules he didn't want to follow.
Plus, he sorely missed his older brother, Giovanni, who left the family, creating a void Robles couldn't fill.
"I was praying to God: 'Please help me with my son,' '' she said. " 'I need help.' ''
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At that moment, she says, her television aired a commercial for Big Brothers Big Sisters of Essex, Hudson and Union counties. That bit of divine intervention brings me back to the picture she sent last week.
Carlos is standing next to Jesse Koblentz, who, with tears in his eyes, has his arm around Carlos.
Jesse Koblentz gets emotional after Carlos Padilla graduated from infantry school at Fort Benning, a U.S. Army base in Georgia. Koblentz became Carlos' big brother through Big Brothers Big Sisters of Essex, Hudson and Union counties. Dalila Robles
The son Robles was worried about had just graduated from infantry school at Fort Benning, an Army base in Georgia. And Koblentz, 39, a Cranford resident, had started smiling for the photo, but by the third frame, he was in tears, filled with emotion and pride by Carlos' accomplishment. Because he's the big brother who helped usher the 18-year-old through adolescence.
"I've never been more proud of anybody in my life,'' Koblentz told me days before the graduation. "I'm very proud of him for raising his hand and joining the Army. It's not an easy thing to do.''
The picture is a reminder to us all about the power of mentoring and the importance of men maintaining a presence in a child's life.
"An investment in one child is turning into an investment in our entire country,'' said Carlos Lejnieks, executive director of Big Brothers Big Sisters of Essex, Hudson and Union counties. "That, to me, is the real ripple effect of what mentoring is about.''
Carlos, the little brother, admits he was iffy about the idea the first time Koblentz, a security supervisor, showed up.
He was a Giants fan; Koblentz, a diehard Cowboy. Oh, great, Carlos thought, How is this going to work?
Still, the two hit it off right away.
"Man, when he came back that boy's eyes was lit up with happiness,'' Robles said. "I was like, 'Thank you Jesus.' ''
They had spent the day hiking Bear Mountain in New York. Then they raced back to Jesse's truck. That's what brothers, do, right? As the bond developed, Koblentz taught Carlos how to drive.
They'd also wrestle, with Carlos always getting the upper hand. Carlos wrestled in high school, a sport his older brother once participated in. With his sibling not around, Koblentz would talk to Carlos for hours about responsibility if his mom had a concern.
The two became inseparable. When Koblentz married two years ago, Carlos was there. When Carlos didn't have a ride to the prom, Koblentz took him and his date to the dance.
Dalila Robles, (left) with her son, Carlos Padilla.Dalila Robles
"I started realizing that doing the right thing ... good things happen,'' Carlos said. "He was always there, no matter what.''
Koblentz stressed education, telling Carlos that graduating high school would allow him to control his future. He helped Carlos navigate disagreements with others, encouraged him to take the high road when making decisions.
Carlos chose the road of honor, joining the military, a path he said he's wanted since he was 8 years old.
"Before, I didn't care about anything and didn't listen to anyone, and when I met him (Koblentz) I changed all of that,'' Carlos said.
For Koblentz, signing up to be a mentor was easy. Someone looked out for him when he was Carlos' age.
"I had a lot of experienced men who took me under their wing and gave me much-needed tools for success in my life,'' Koblentz said.
It takes just four hours a month to be a big brother or sister. Koblentz encourages others to join because too many young people need direction.
He entered Carlos' world at a critical juncture. At 13, Carlos easily could have strayed, something his mother feared.
"He has been like a son in a lot of ways; both a son and a brother and a friend,'' Koblentz said.
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It's why he drove 15 hours, through heavy rain to get to Carlos' graduation on Friday.
Jermaine Rosado, who is Robles' boyfriend, said he and Carlos are close but the brotherly love the young man has with Koblentz is special.
"He (Koblentz) didn't want to sleep. He didn't want to nap. He just wanted to see his brother,'' Rosado said.
After the graduation, Koblentz was moved anew as he helped Carlos carry his duffle bag.
Carlos didn't use his plane ticket to come home, where he's been assigned to the New Jersey National Guard.
He rode back with Koblentz, because he didn't want him to make that 940-mile trip alone.
"Call it kindness, call it class, call it respect or call it all of the above. I just call it family,'' Koblentz said.
I call it brotherhood, the unselfish giving from one brother to another.
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