Two young people - one from Jersey City and the other from Newark - each have had the same Big Brother Big Sister mentor in their lives for nine years.
Kabir Daniels-Verden was a shy 8-year-old boy who was afraid to speak up in class at his Jersey City elementary school.
China Rogers, of Newark, was the just the opposite. She didn't follow rules, acted out in class, and was considered unmanageable. She was only 8 years old, too.
They didn't know each other, having met for the first time recently, but both share an experience that has changed their lives for the better.
Daniels-Verden, now 17, has had the same Big Brother mentor and Rogers, also 17, has had the same Big Sister mentor for nearly 10 years, who have helped them develop into responsible and motivated young people.
"How could one person come into your life and change it like this?," asked Rogers, who has been accepted to William Paterson University. "Me and Carmen (Villafuerte) go way back like four wheels on an old Cadillac. My love for her is unimaginable."
It's been a long time, but every moment has been worth it for Villafuerte and James Basile, who have been nominated by Big Brothers Big Sisters of Essex, Hudson and Union counties to be considered for the state's Big Brothers and Big Sisters of the Year award.
It's rare for a match to last this long, said Carlos Lejnieks, president and chief executive officer of BBBS. The average length is two years.
"Both Jim and Carmen -- especially in light of their long mentoring tenure -- speak to how such a relationship can move well beyond being part of a program; it can be about adding to one's family ... for both the 'Big' and the 'Little,' " Lejnieks said. "They stay in the lives of our kids, and that's the blessing."
Count Basile and Villafuerte among that special club, because the impact they've made goes far beyond any nomination.
Daniels-Verden, a senior at County Prep High School in Jersey City, is no longer shy and quiet. He's a confident, goal-oriented young man on his way to Howard University, where he plans to study pre-med in the fall.
From the time nine years ago when he met Basile, Daniels-Verden, a fourth grader at the time, said he could tell that his "Big" cared right from the beginning.
Basile, 50, a North Jersey resident who is a technology project manager, would meet Daniels-Verden at his school for lunch. They'd play chess, maybe a board game or toss paper airplanes from the balcony in the auditorium. The bond grew stronger when the two began to get together on weekends, the next phase of a mentoring relationship that they both wanted.
"I'm surprised it lasted this long," Basile said. "We've basically built up a friendship. He's a smart, kind, considerate young man, and I'm really proud to see that."
Daniels-Verden, raised by his mom, Desreane Daniels, said he didn't have a relationship with his own father, so Basile's consistent presence was invaluable.
"James has transitioned from being a lunch partner to a family member," Daniels-Verden said.
In his mother's nominating essay about Basile, Daniels said he has been a friend and champion, who has shown her son that there are men who will keep their promises, reinforcing generosity and love for humanity.
"James has been like Ashford and Simpson's 'Solid as a rock,' " she said, referring to lyrics from the rhythm and blues duo's 1984 album, "Solid."
Daniels-Verden said Basile's greatest influence has been stressing academics -- and transforming him to a morning person to start his day at 5:30 a.m.
"He would constantly remind me that school comes first," Daniels-Verden said. "A lot of kids don't put school first, and they go down a different path. I don't know what my life would have been like without him, but he's made a great impact."
In spite of the age difference, the two have clicked, sharing their taste in music.
Daniels-Verden likes rappers Kendrick Lamar and J. Cole; Basile is from the Metallica and Van Halen era.
"It's a good feeling that our relationship prevailed," Daniels-Verden said. "When you think about it, wow, we surpassed many other relationships."
His equal would be Rogers, who loves Villafuerte for believing in her potential when others didn't.
"I never expected nobody to come into my life and change it for the better," said Rogers, a senior at University High School in Newark. "You never know who could do what, who's capable of what."
Villafuerte, a special-education teacher assistant, was 23 when she saw a sweet, talkative, energetic kid who needed guidance.
"I just fell in love with her personality," said Villafuerte, 33, of Roselle.
MORE CARTER: Newark's My Brother's Keeper program is pipeline to opportunity | Carter
She helped Rogers get enrolled in the Sadie Nash Leadership Project, which promotes leadership and activism for young women. She'd talk to Rogers' teachers and principal, staying on her about grades, helping with projects, too. When Rogers' stepfather died in 2014, Villafuerte was there with Big Sister comfort through a tough time over the loss of a man she called "Dad."
"She's always a phone call away," said Nyah James, Rogers' mother.
"If she (China) can't talk to me, she can talk to Carmen. She's always there."
That's the kind of support Big Sisters and Big Brothers provide. Now those they've mentored are preparing for a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity: These two youngsters are among 10 BBBS members selected by the organization to travel to China at the end of this month for a cultural trip. Big Brothers Big Sisters is able to provide the experience by working with New Jersey City University and a funding partner.
In a few months, Daniels-Verden and Rogers will be graduating. In the audience, they'll see Basile and Villafuerte, cheering them on.
And when they go off to college and exit the program, these "Bigs" will continue to be big guiding their young lives into adulthood.
Barry Carter: (973) 836-4925 or bcarter@starledger.com or
nj.com/carter or follow him on Twitter @BarryCarterSL